Sadly, suicide is the 10th-leading cause of death in the United States, and the second-leading cause of death among those aged 10 to 34.1 Suicide impacts not only the person who has taken their life, but all of those they’ve left behind—family members, friends, neighbors, classmates and coworkers. And it’s heartbreaking to know that almost every suicide can be prevented.

Since this can be a difficult subject to discuss, let this be a safe space to explore it further without shame or fear. We encourage you to take as much time as you need to read this article, and learn about the organizations and people you or someone you know can turn to for help.

Signs of suicidal thoughts

How do you know if someone is considering suicide? “Most people who attempt it are internally dealing with conditions such as depression or PTSD,” says Dr. Aron S. Wolf, lead psychiatrist with Teladoc Health. “The individual may show a change in their behavior. They may become quieter, more withdrawn or even sullen or angry with little or no provocation.”

Some of the warning signs may seem obvious, but others are more subtle. Take a look at the signs2 listed below, split into three categories: talk, behavior and mood.

Someone with suicidal thoughts may talk about:

  • Killing themselves
  • Feeling hopeless
  • Having no reason to live
  • Being a burden to others
  • Feeling trapped
  • Being in unbearable pain (emotional or physical)

Someone actively contemplating suicide might act impulsively or recklessly. It might look like:

  • Increased use of alcohol or drugs
  • Looking for a way to end their lives, such as searching online for methods
  • Withdrawing from activities
  • Isolating from family and friends
  • Sleeping too much or too little
  • Visiting or calling people to say goodbye
  • Giving away valued possessions
  • Being aggressive

Someone thinking about ending their life might struggle with many overwhelming emotions. These include feeling:

  • Depressed
  • Anxiety
  • Uninterested
  • Irritable
  • Humiliated
  • Agitated
  • Tired

While some of these signs may seem minor and are common with other emotional and mental health conditions, they all deserve attention.

“People didn’t recognize that anything was wrong when I started turning down offers to do things socially,” says Michael, a 31-year-old who once struggled with suicidal thoughts. “Eventually, they stopped asking me to hang out altogether. I called a couple of friends now and then, but for the most part, I remained in isolation on my couch.”

When a friend reached out to him, Michael shared how down he had been feeling. His buddy, who had no idea what Michael was going through, had initially assumed he needed space. He responded by telling Michael how much he and their friends loved and trusted him. “He also suggested that I ‘move a muscle, change a thought.’ So, I got up and took a short walk around the block. For me personally, it was amazing to see how fresh air and a change of scenery could shift my perspective, even just a little,” Michael says.

Every time he felt suicidal, Michael, who was battling a chronic illness when the suicidal thoughts began, followed his friend’s advice to move and change his thoughts. He started to list at least one thing he could be grateful for each day, including that he had a support system of people who genuinely cared about him. “I realized how far off my thinking was when my friends started inviting me to show up just as I was, no matter how sad I felt,” he says. Michael also started thinking about other people who could use a phone call or a quick visit, which helped him get out of his own head. Today he is happily married and thankful that he didn’t take his own life.

How to help someone thinking about suicide

Jennifer’s world was turned upside down when her college-age daughter committed suicide. “I was shocked because we had just talked earlier in the day,” Jennifer remembers, “and she mentioned that she was going to talk with her psychiatrist the next day.” The loss of her daughter devastated Jennifer, her family and her daughter’s soccer team. “To this day, I miss my ‘friend,'” Jennifer says. “When I think of her, I also wonder if I could have helped her.”

Jennifer visited the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention (AFSP) as part of her healing process. She also attended support groups, where she and others shared their stories and helped each other come to terms with their experience.

If you think someone is in danger of committing suicide, AFSP recommends you follow these steps:

  • Take the person seriously. You don’t want to be someone who thought they were simply being dramatic or trying to get attention.
  • Do not leave the person alone. Stay with them and don’t let them out of your sight. If you must leave, ask someone else to come and stay with them before you go.
  • Call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 800-273-TALK (8255). A trained crisis counselor can talk you through what to do until help arrives, or speak directly with the person in crisis. Alternatively, you can text HELLO to the Crisis Text Line at 741741 for free, 24/7.
  • Remove lethal means. Remove firearms, knives, prescription medications and all alcohol from the area.
  • Comfort the person. Do your best to be calm yet caring. Remind them that their suffering is temporary and that they’re not alone.
  • Wait with the person until help arrives. You can also escort them to the emergency room or a dedicated mental health services center.

“Even if they haven’t said anything about suicide, don’t be afraid to ask whether they’ve been thinking about it. Having an honest conversation will help a person in crisis get them the help they need in the moment.” Dr. Aron S. Wolf

How to help yourself if you’re thinking about suicide

First, know that you are worth saving. You’ll probably never fully realize how many people you’ve touched in a positive way throughout your life. You deserve to live—no matter how badly you feel. You are loved and cared for in ways you may not recognize right now.

If you feel you’ve run out of options and taking your life is the only way to resolve a situation or relieve the pain you’re feeling, call 911 or the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 800-273-TALK (8255) immediately. You can also text HELLO to the Crisis Text Line at 741741. Trained crisis counselors are available to listen to and talk with you without judgment 24 hours a day.

In addition to a hotline or local emergency room, help can come in the form of friends and family staying with you through a critical period. “The situation is almost never as dire or immediate as you may be feeling,” says Dr. Wolf. “If you already have a counselor, contact them to tell them of your concerns or plans.” He also suggests removing any means of committing suicide from your environment “so you’re not tempted to use them impulsively.”

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Updated September 7, 2021


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